What Do You Want On Your Tombstone?

Many of us worry more about death than having a meaningful life.

Frederico Costa


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The question “What Do You Want On Your Tombstone?” is made for the guests of a weekly Brazilian tv show, making me think about what I should put on my tombstone. But, l would like to ask you, what do you want on your tombstone?

I’m sorry if this question scares you. We all will die one day, and it’s the only certainty we have. At the show, some guests would like to say something about their legacy, like an activist for animal protection that wishes a phrase

“This person made a difference on the fight for animal rights.”

Another one of the guests wishes to engrave on the tombstone the phrase

“Here lies one who was terrified of dying.”

But my favorite one is an actor from Brazil who would carve

“I’m not here.”,

as he believes in some continuation after the death of the flesh. I share his belief in thinking our experience doesn’t finish when our bodies are turned off.

The initial question of this article makes me think that many of us are much more worried about death than having a meaningful life. As I did in other publications here, I enforce the idea that the good we make to others in our journey is what matters. There is not a single religion in the world that says we’ll be asked at the end of our lives how much money we make. The doomsday questions are more like “How many could you help in your lifetime?” and “How many times have you been able to help someone without expecting anything in return?”. Many repeat the good words from religious books but not much practice.

I care less about what will happen to my body after death, and I prefer cremation instead of having a place in a cemetery. But a final message, even not wanting to have a tombstone, would be: “Be a good person now, before it’s too late.”



Frederico Costa

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