What I’ve Learned From Spiritism That Helps Go Through Challenges Life Brings On.

Between “Fuck You” And The Right Behavior.

Frederico Costa

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A friend who was rude and acted wrong to me weeks ago sent a message saying he misses me and there’s no reason for us not to talk anymore. Honestly, my first thought was a “fuck you” in cute, colorful green and pink letters. Then came a voice telling me to think before answering. The next second, I leave the phone on the table and think it’s best not to answer. I still don’t know what to do.

But as a great promoter of conversation and resolving things in dialogue, I don’t like the idea of ​​not responding. There is no way to continue this relationship. But our friendship, even if it ends here, deserves more than silence.

I already understood that we came to this world to learn and evolve, so I don’t want to waste any more time, and I want to grow. Some people in my family will turn up their noses reading this. Some seem to think I’m a monster, even though I was there when they needed me. And there’s something else I have to work on. When you do good, you get good back, but it doesn’t always come from the people you helped (materially or emotionally). The good you do comes back. The bad too. So, what others do doesn’t matter; I need to do good to evolve. That’s not to say it’s easy all the time.

It is so evident to me that if we are here to evolve is because we are not perfect. I feel that I have grown. I’ve been in therapy for three years, and I’ve been studying spiritism* for a while, which says this: we are living what we ask for and deserve, and we can change our destiny and create a better future.

I’m at this stage of life, trying to create a better future. We are not and will not come out of this life as perfect beings, but I want to move faster in that direction. The first step towards this is to understand that we all made mistakes in the past. Me, my rude friend, someone who has been selfish, very vain people, the ones who manipulate to get benefits from other people. We’ve all made mistakes in the past, and we all want forgiveness for the mistakes we’ve made. Well, then, the first step is to forgive. Talking about the sound teachings of spiritism is easy, but putting it into practice is more complicated. But…

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Frederico Costa

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